Why You Arent Getting What You Want Out Of Your Relationship?

Think your relationship is going south? Feel like you're not getting what you should, what you need from your partner? Maybe you're even feeling a bit scared there's no possible way to bring things back on track? 

If you've ever taken a look at your relationship and thought, "This just isn't working out," it is possible your relationship has become a victim of EWC.

EWC stands for Expectation Without Communication, and it's one of the really BIG, and most common reasons people have problems in their relationships. My guess would be that EWC is actually one of the top three causes of relationship trouble, with the other two being dishonesty and infidelity.

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Your Scorpio Boyfriend: Understand Him

If you have a Scorpio boyfriend, you’ve paired up with one of the passionate signs of the Zodiac. He won’t just be passionate in love and lust. His passion spreads to everything he does. He’ll be passionate about all of his interests, his job, his work and play, and if he loves you, your Scorpio boyfriend will be passionate about keeping you happy. 

Scorpio’s are driven, but they know how to balance work and play most of the time. Scorpios tend to be more impatient that some other signs, too. While a Capricorn man might make a long-reaching plan and be content to plod away toward the goal, knowing he’s achieving it little by little, a Scorpio man would rather make one broad leap toward the end. 

Scorpios also love luxury. Especially if he hasn’t much in his life, once he discovers the little things that make a person feel pampered, he won’t want to be without them. Eating at nicer restaurants, seeing movies in a better theater with larger more comfy seats and better sound—these little things are important to him. 

One of the drawbacks of this love of luxury is a Scorpio’s tendency to go to extremes and excess. Sometimes a Scorpio boyfriend can appear greedy when it comes to food, drink or anything else that can be taken to an extreme. Overdoing it is a hallmark of being born during this sun sign. 

The Scorpio is represented by a scorpion, and we all know that scorpions have pincers and stingers in their tails. So watch out when Scorpios get angry! While many are slow to really get angry, once they lose their temper it’s well and truly lost. 

Some Scorpios actually have very short tempers and stay angry for a long time as well. But most Scorpios, just as they take other things to excess, can stay angry for huge amounts of time over small things. A Scorpio can hold a grudge for a lifetime. 

Your Scorpio boyfriend will also have a very fine-tuned sense of reality. So don’t bother trying to trick him or fool him, because he’ll probably see right through it. Some Scorpios seem to have built-in lie detectors or those proverbial eyes in the backs of their heads. 

A Scorpio’s sense of truth often leads to them being very blunt. Many are unflinching when it comes to things like death and dying, with black humor and gallows humor being a Scorpio favorite. 

If you’re a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn, you have the best compatibility. Those are earth signs, while a Scorpio is a water sign. If you’re a Cancer or a Pisces, both water signs like Scorpio, you should be compatible, too. 

That’s not say another sign of the Zodiac can’t have a successful relationship with a Scorpio. But there might be more challenges along the way than if you were each more compatible signs. No matter what sign you are, if you really want to make thing work with your Scorpio boyfriend, you can!

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How To Write Break Up Letters To Boyfriend

Break up letters to boyfriend are, for the most part, a bad idea. Some people would rather write down what they’re feeling and thinking than say these things to someone’s face. While some people actually break up with their boyfriends in person and then write break up letters to boyfriend further explaining how they feel. 

But don’t just write the letter intending to break up that way. You should always deliver news like that in person—not on the phone or in a letter. Your boyfriend probably deserves that much consideration. So when should girls write break up letters to boyfriend?

If you feel there’s no real resolution, then consider writing that break up letter. If you don’t feel you expressed yourself well enough, and you think he’s still confused about why you wanted to break up, a letter can help you explain things. 

Sometimes, in cases where the boyfriend can’t seem to face the fact that the relationship is over, a break up letter makes it more real. It’s written down, in black and white so to speak, and can’t just be denied as if maybe he didn’t understand you correctly. 

When you write break up letters to boyfriend, it’s something they can read and reread to help drive the point home. And it probably will be something he’ll read more than once, maybe several times, so you want to choose your words carefully. 

It’s a good idea to write the letter and then set it aside for a while. You don’t want to be hasty when writing it and giving it to him. Go back the next day and read it again and make some changes. You’ll probably find things you want to take out, or maybe things you want to change around. 

You also want to make it shorter rather than longer. Don’t go on for six pages about how he spent more time with his friends than you. Just mentioning the issue once is enough. The point of the letter is not to enumerate his flaws or make him feel bad, but to express how you felt. 

You want to be honest when writing break up letters to boyfriend, but bear something important in mind. Anything you write down could be read by anyone at anytime. Never write something down that you’re comfortable with any stranger reading. 

You don’t know what he’ll do with the letter. If his best friend or his parents read it, would that make you uncomfortable? So be careful what you write and how you write it. 

You might even want someone to read it over before you give it to him. Take care with this, too. Is your best friend someone you really want reading your break up letter?  Can she really keep a secret? A family member might be a better choice. Just try to choose someone who really can keep a confidence. 

Finally, when you write break up letters to boyfriend, just be honest without going on too long about what went wrong. 

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Things To Do With Your Boyfriend To Keep Him Interested

When thinking of things to do with your boyfriend, try to include several activities that you know he’ll really enjoy. There’s often a tendency to pick things we like, and just assume our boyfriends will like them, too. But of all the things to do with your boyfriend, at least half should be aimed at his interests. 

Try to keep a pretty even balance about the things you do together.  If he takes you to see the latest romance, especially if you know he hates those types of movies, don’t groan or complain when he wants to see the new action movie that you really don’t want to see.  The things to do with your boyfriend should include things he loves, too. 

A good relationship has a lot to do with balance.  You share things like chores, coming up with ideas for things to do, surprising each other and being kind. Choosing things to do that he’ll enjoy shouldn’t be hard if you know him well. 

If he hasn’t been your boyfriend very long, then simply as him the types of things he likes to do the most. He’ll probably mention some things you would have never thought of on your own. 

There are many things to do with your boyfriend that you can both enjoy. If he likes to swim in the ocean and you’re not wild about it, make a nice picnic lunch with some of your favorite foods, and take hi to the beach.  He can swim while you read novel, sunbathe or play volleyball. 

Does he love golf, but you’re not really interested?  Split the difference and play a fun round of mini-golf. He likes Nascar and nothing bores you more than cars circling a track over and over.  So make some snacks for you both, and while he’s watching the game you can be in the same room reading or working at one of your hobbies.  

You don’t have to both be doing exactly the same thing to be doing something with your boyfriend. You’ll find that very often it’s best not do to the same things together all the time. You each need a little private space. 

There are going to be some things that each of you loves that the other hates.  If you like Off-Broadway shows, for example, and he hates them, find a girlfriend or a family member to go to the theater.  And he can take one of his buddies to the racetrack when he wants to go. 

But if he takes you to a show, you should be willing to go to the track with him.  If you can keep an even balance of things with each getting to do something they enjoy with the other and vice versa, you’ll have a more balanced relationship. 

And you may find that the racetrack isn’t so bad. He may learn to like theater. If you can compromise, you’ll never run out of ideas for interesting things to do with your boyfriend. 

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Ending A Relationship - How To Stay Strong

Ending a relationship is one of the hardest things we sometimes have to do. It’s difficult when you’re the one that gets dumped, but even if it’s you ending a relationship, there are many painful emotions to deal with. 

It’s especially difficult if the relationship is ending over things that don’t seem that important but ended up being insurmountable. Breakups are easier when one person is cheating or treating the other badly. At least when you break up with someone you know that you won’t be subjected to that behavior anymore. 

But when you’re ending a relationship over things you might normally think of as small things you can end up doubting your decision a lot, especially right at first when things seem loneliest. It’s all too easy to convince yourself that things weren’t so bad after all, you miss your ex, and you should just get back together with him or her. 

It’s important, however, to stay strong after you’ve broken up with your boyfriend or girlfriend. And if you find yourself doubting your decision, you need to think back to the things that made you want to break up in the first place. 

When there’s no specific horrible thing like cheating or abuse to think on, it can be easy to tell yourself that the relationship wasn’t so bad after all, and you must have just been exaggerating. But really examine your feelings. 

If you ended the relationship because he was just not there for you when you needed him, think back on how you felt when you really needed a shoulder to cry on and he wasn’t there, or he wasn’t open for that. Is it likely if you get back together with him that he’ll start being there for you? Hadn’t you already told him you needed that time and time again?

If it just didn’t feel “right” and you just didn’t have strong enough feelings for him, then when you find yourself sad and lonely it can be really easy to tell yourself you were wrong. You might decide that you can develop feelings for him, and that you just didn’t try hard enough before. 

This might be the hardest thing to keep believing, because it is very easy to second guess ourselves when ending a relationship. But sometimes we can like someone, and even feel love for them, without the possibility of that ever turning into romantic love. 

No matter how hard you try, if you’re not in love with someone and they’re just not the one for you, you’re not going to be able to force it to happen. Focus your energies on something else instead. 

If you were close and you miss him but could not feel that special romantic love for him, really work hard at figuring out how you feel now. There’s no rule that says you can’t keep a close relationship with an ex. Ending a relationship completely might not be necessary, because you could end up being the best of friends.

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Long Distance Relationships: Do They Work?

There is a lot of controversy and different opinions regarding long distance relationships. Many people will tell you that they can never work. Then, there are people who are involved in long distance relationships that will tell you that they are the best relationships they have ever been in. They would not change where they are at for anything in the world. Long distance relationships are essentially the same as any other relationship. They require the same things from both partners. So, what makes them work or fail?

The most important thing in any kind of relationship is trust and communication. If you are not able to talk to the person that you are spending time with, then you have nothing. If you cannot both completely trust each other, you will never have a meaningful relationship or make it work. In a long distance relationship, communication and trust are much more paramount. You have to rely on what your partner is saying. You are not there to know exactly what is going on. The same is true for your partner. You could be telling them one thing and doing something completely different. For many long distance couples, the internet plays a huge role in their relationship.

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