9 steps to win the heart of a girl you like

Ever wondered why some guys are such charmers? They seem to win the affection of all the girls all the time. You can be that guy too, as long as you understand what it takes to win a girl’s heart.

Use these 9 steps on how to win a girl’s heart, and you’ll surely be on your way to impressing the girl you like effortlessly.

#1 Be a great guy. Let’s face it, if you want to date a great girl who’s desired by several guys, you need to be a great guy too.

Here’s a great test to find out if you’re in the big league of guys. When you walk into a room full of guys, do you feel like you’re the coolest cat in the room? Or do you look at a few other guys in awe because they seem so much more awesome?

If you think another guy is cooler, or if you admire a few qualities about another guy you meet, it only means you’re lacking that quality yourself in comparison with that guy. Each time you see a guy who seems *cooler* than you, work on that particular trait so you can get better at it over time. It’s the safest way to improve your own personality in the direction you really want.

#2 Talk to her. Make her feel special when she’s around you. It doesn’t matter if there are several other guys who are trying to get her attention. All that matters is what you’re doing to win her heart. Talk to her warmly when you bump into her, and let her know that you’re happy to see her. 

#3 Flirt with her. Flirting with a girl whose heart you’re trying to win is a subtle art. You can either make it obvious that you’re flirting with her, or you can be discreet and subtle. Flirt with her discreetly to begin with, and if she reciprocates by flirting back, you can start to get more obvious.

If you want to flirt with her, try to get some alone time with her whenever you can, and avoid flirting with her when there are others around. Flirting with her when her friends are around will make your flirty lines seem like a joke. Save the compliments and the smooth talking for private conversations.

#4 Don’t be clouded by emotions. You know you like her, but she doesn’t know it yet. If you feel like your chances are slipping or there’s no reciprocation from her end, don’t get reckless. Most guys think with their heart and end up professing their love for a girl when she’s just not interested in dating them. Don’t be that guy. Just make sure you stay out of the friend zone, and avoid telling her that you like her unless you know she likes you already.

#5 Don’t be threatened by the competition. Always think twice before you say something to her, especially if it’s not something pleasant or if it’s about another guy. If she’s been ignoring your calls, or if she gives all her attention to another guy in the cafeteria, don’t behave like a little brat and sulk in the corner. And most importantly, don’t confront her about it. She doesn’t owe you any explanations. Remember, winning her heart is a challenge, and every now and then, you’ll have to deal with other guys who want to impress her.

#6 Occupy her thoughts at night. The night time is the best time to build the intimacy. Start off by texting her now and then in the evenings, and work your way to calling her at night occasionally. Talk about things that interest her, and over time, she’ll warm up to you and even look forward to talking to you every night.

If you know another guy who calls this girl often, call her half an hour earlier and try to create an interesting conversation. If she likes talking to you, she’ll probably disconnect the other guy’s call if she’s having a great conversation with you.

#7 Open up to her. The best way to build a bond with the girl you like is by building a secret relationship that no one else knows about. By flirting with her only when it’s just the both of you and by talking to each other late at night, it would be a secret flirty affair only the two of you know about, and that would make the whole relationship so much more exciting and mysterious.

Now take that to the next level. When you’re talking to this girl late at night, tell her a few of your secrets that not many people know about, preferably about your past relationships *both of you will end up talking about sex within a few nights* or a few trivial difficulties you’re having with someone she doesn’t know about *she’ll give you advise on how to deal with that person, and would want an update every night*.

The more she knows about your personal details, the more easily she’ll start talking about her own secrets. And once she starts doing that, she’ll start to feel closer to you, and think about you often too. As long as you avoid talking about something sad or gloomy, she’ll always be excited to stretch the conversation with you. 

#8 Win over her friends. If you do know most of her friends, try to be nice to them. This isn’t really necessary, but it can help you score brownie points if she ever does discuss about you with her friends.

So does the girl whose heart you’re trying to win have a best friend? If she does have a best friend, then that’s the girl you need to please. Be nice to her best friend and get friendly with her too. And when her best friend becomes a good friend of yours, *accidentally* slip the word out that you like the girl. As long as you’ve impressed her best friend, she’ll turn into your evangelist and convince the girl you like to start dating you because you’re such an awesome catch!

#9 Get her addicted to you. Unless you know she’s crazy about you already, don’t tell her you’ve fallen for her. Focus on having a good time with her, but at the same time, don’t try too hard to impress her. When you make it obvious that you’re trying to win her heart by buying her flowers or saying something romantic, you kill the mystery. Let her wonder about what you think of her. Compliment her, tell her you miss not having her around, and even tell her that you wish she was with you, but don’t tell her you like her just yet. 

And once you know that she’s definitely into you and likes you back, tell her what’s on your mind. 

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Five Things That Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You

One: Attention

When you are talking with her, does she linger? By linger, I mean, does she hang around long after you have run out of clever things to say? If a woman isn't interested in you, she will make up any manner of excuses or find real reasons for parting company. So if she lingers, you can use that as an opening to talking more, and then finding out if she's really interested in you. Does she ask questions about you, or does she just talk about things in general. Because if she asks about you then she's definitely interested in you. And it's a bad sign to think that she's interested in you if she's always busy talking about something else, because later on in the relationship, you will realize that yes, she was interested, but not in you! Maybe in what you know about, or the things you talked about, but if the questions aren't designed to get to know you better, than she isn't interested in knowing you better! And if her questions don't allow you to get to know her better either, then what's the point? You might as well go read a book instead.

Two: Direction

This may seem similar to some of the communications in number one, but it is not. The question is this. Is her conversation with you centered around something other than you, and other than her? In other words, when she talks about things, does she talk about things and not about people? You and her kinds of things, not just things about other people. If she does talk about you two, then that's the sign you are looking for. But if she just talks about other people, and never really gets around to talking about you, then it's obvious what's she's interested in: not you. And there's nothing wrong about this at all! There are six billion people on the planet and at least three billion are of the necessary sex, (or more depending upon your preferences!) for dating you. Move on, Dude, because at this point you may need to. So what if she does talk about you and about her? That's not only the sign you have been looking for, but as well, appreciate her for her interest. There are so many aspects of relationship that both men and women just don't pay attention to, because they are too worried about their own self-image. Get out of your head, guys, and look over at this delightful person who is talking with you. Wow! Isn't that great! And if you say she isn't delightful, then what the heck are you trying to pursue her for? Knock off the bull and admit it. She's great. And by the way, so are you.

Three: Movement

Is she always trying to move away from you? In other words, do you get the feeling that she's always trying to put just a little more room between your body and her body than you would like to have there? Not a good sign. Back off. Relax. Let her come toward you, if she's going to. If not, then you know. You will know whether she's interested enough in you to actually come toward you physically or not. If not, great! Move on. If so, then be easy about it. Let her lean in toward you and then enjoy basking in her essence. The hot and heavy stuff is for either couples who know right away exactly what they want, or for couples who have been together for a while. If you're not in either of those categories, then the best advice is to back off a bit, wait, and rather than "seeing what happens" instead, pay attention to what's happening.

Four: Continuance

Does she make any attempt at all to continue the conversation on her own? This is critical. You can't make all the moves. If she's not making any, then maybe she doesn't want to. You want to, and you're out there trying, but if she isn't doing the same, to any degree, then it may be time to move on. Or, you may need to just back off and wait for a bit, and see what she does. Or you could so something outrageously dangerous and actually ask her. "Hey, are you interested in me? How do you feel about us? Where would you like to see us going?" And then? Again, do something radically dangerous and when she answers you, and actually listen to her. You just may score more points this way than any other. In fact, if you just listen to her, really listen, that "only friends" thing may just turn out to be more than friends.

Five: Chemistry

Ask yourself "is there chemistry between us?" You can feel this. It isn't rocket science. And, you can feel if she's feeling it too. Look at her face. Is she smiling? Use your intuition here, guys, what's going on with her? You have to let go and lighten up in order to actually remove yourself from all that you are feeling for a brief moment, and then intuit what she's feeling. And if you can't do that? Well, then you're going to have to ask. Ask her. "How are you feeling right now?" And depending upon the situation, she may or may not answer you in a way that reveals all that much, because if you've been demanding as to her commitment, and she's just not ready right now, she's going to go for the "nice" touch, and that may mean not communicating entirely.

And this is the main point of all of this. Communication will get you either into or out of a relationship, but it has to be honest communication. People are only hurt when someone else holds back the truth, or doesn't say what they are really feeling, and that happens with both guys and girls. Speak it. What is really going on with you and what do you really want? Give the person you are interested in some space to figure out their responses regarding how they feel, for their answers to show up in. Maybe when she says "I don't know" she really doesn't. Not believing her isn't going to help. Ask yourself then, "Do I really want to be with someone who truly doesn't know how they feel about me, even after we've been talking for a while?" Who would want that? But so many of us pursue women who aren't interested in us, as if it was a battle/conquest thing, a challenge to "get" someone. But we don't ever "get" anyone. Either they come to us as willing and powerful partners, or it's something else. And tell the truth guys, haven't you had enough of "something else?" I know I have!

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7 Tips That Will Get Her Addicted To Texting You!

Have you wondered how to get a girls attention by using text messaging? Or do you send a text message and then wait hours for a reply that never comes? Why wouldn't she reply? You've said something sweet and something that was cleverly worded to get her attention. Or have you? So what do you do while you're waiting for that reply? Twiddle your thumbs? Start wondering if the message actually got through and start contemplating sending it again? You're ultimately left banging your head against a wall trying to figure out how to get a girls attention with text messaging and how to get her to reply lightning fast!

The Questions You Ask

It's frustrating and upsetting not knowing how to get a girls attention when you've spent a considerable amount of time and effort putting a cleverly worded text together. And to make it worse, she seems to ignore you and leave you contemplating all the reasons why she hasn't responded. Is she too busy? Is my phone not sending or her phone not receiving messages? Did she accidently delete it or is she playing mind games? And the list goes on!

Take Control!

These were the exact same questions that used to go through my head after waiting the next day or two for a reply. So knowing that you're reading this, I know you'd be interested in how to get a girls attention by improving your text messaging skills. I'm going to share with you some tactics that would at the very least get her to respond to you. Then YOU'D be in control of the conversation and SHE would be the one with all the questions in her head!

The 7 Tips On How To Get A Girls Attention By Text:

1. You have to send the message only ONCE and just trust it got through. Chances are she got it and is avoiding responding to you for whatever reason. Read on to find out how to get a girls attention by sending better text messages than you currently are.


2. You have to be MYSTERIOUS in what you say so she is left asking questions and wanting to know more. Girls LOVE mystery! So work out something to say that leaves here wanting to know more. How you get a girls attention by using mystery is to NEVER give it away! Step around it using humour and teasing her. This also becomes a challenge to her which is ALSO what girls love! She gets frustrated? GOOD!


3. A word of CAUTION! You have to be careful what you say and how you word a text message because it can easily be misinterpreted. Use emoticons like a wink when you're half serious.


4. Use Humour! It's POWERFUL, but make sure it's funny and not stupid. This takes practice, but you can develop a sense of humour to keep girls interested. It has to be like a gentle teasing humour, but again remember, be careful of misinterpretation by text!


5. If she starts getting upset because she's frustrated at the challenge you present, GOOD! You've started to understand how to get a girls attention! You've got her in the position you want! DON'T apologise! Try telling her she's cute when she gets all upset. And if you've had a roll on and she starts ignoring you, BE PATIENT! She WILL get back to you! Don't act desperate by chasing her up!


6. Leave random time intervals between replies. DON'T reply instantly! This is part of the mystery process and puts questions in HER head! Now she's in the position you were in before reading these tips! Be patient with your response. Don't leave it too long though or you'll lose your momentum. No longer than say 5-10 minutes. If you learn one thing from this article about how to get a girls attention with text messages, let it be DON'T flood her with messages!


7. DON'T drag a texting conversation on for too long and make sure you're the one to stop contacting first by saying you have to go. It's especially good if you can leave her in a state of anticipation! Try this as an example. "I have to go now, but let me know when you're ready to apologise." I can guarantee you she will shoot a message straight back asking what she has to apologise for. DON'T answer it! Again it creates MYSTERY!

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3 Questions To Turn Her On

It sounds crazy. In order to turn a woman on, all you need to do is ask her 3 simple questions. By listening to her answers, you will be able to read that woman's mind and find out what she wants. And once you know that, it's simple to deliver the goods.

The crazy part, though, is that it actually works.

The "3 questions that turn her on" method is a theory that comes from Vin DiCarlo in his amazing new Pandora's Box System program. Vin's program focuses on learning what turns a specific woman on (instead of, say, "every woman in the world"; Vin's approach is more about focusing on the woman standing right in front of you, you know, the one you might have sex with!) and then how to use that to your advantage.

The 3 questions that turn her on are simple.

1. You want to find out her "time line." This means what is the dating strategy that she uses in order to find a man she wants to be with. Vin explains the various ways to ask this question in the Pandora's Box System program.

2. You want to find her "sex line." This is the way that she views sex and what turns her on. Again, Vin explains the intricacies of this line of questioning in the program.

3. You want to find her "relationship line." These are the various factors and qualities she looks for in a man that she wants a relationship from.

Once you have the answers to these three questions, going through the process of turning her on and making the conversation into an actual honest-to-goodness sexual encounter is simple.

The Pandora's Box System program comes with Vin breaking down how to utilize the "3 questions to turn her on" approach.

Going through the program will give you a huge advantage over the other guys out there who are simply chatting with these girls without picking up on the subtle body language signals they're sending out.

his is the beauty of classifying woman into types. It makes it easier to predict their behavior and have your response ready. When you learn to read her mind you'll find it much more fun and easy to seduce beautiful women.

Just think: if you were able to read a woman's mind, how big of an advantage you would have over the other guys? Because that's what '3 Questions That Turn Her On' basically is. You're being taught how to read her mind.

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What women notice first in a man?

Every contact with a new man makes an impression to the woman without her intention and the results of this impression is created mostly by the eyes of the man. In the process of communication, women are politely looking at the eyes, and therefor they are of great importance.

The hair is also of great importance, and the shape of the face. Trying to remind of someone who they have seen briefly, women remember the eyes, hair and other important thing - the height.

The lips and hands are coming after. Women are putting their attention on many things that men are not aware of, like the warmth of his hand and the strength with which men squeeze her hand. The lips and his voice can make a big difference in the women eyes too. The color of his voice while speaking can be the decisive moment of attraction or rejection.

In third place, but of great importance are clothes, shoes and accessories. Here, the first impression is coming from the color of the clothes and the combination of it. The woman estimates the man accidentally by the clothing and the type of shoes.

Do not forget that about 10-20% of what you are saying will make an impression.

Seduction Guide for Men Click Here!

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Quick Dating Tips For Both Men and Women

Dating Tips for Men

Men are just as nervous about dates as women, they are just better at hiding it.  If you are a single guy looking to start dating and hopefully meet a potential mate, a little guidance will be in order. 
Dating is not the same social ritual that it used to be a decade ago.  It has become more of a gruelling training for marriage or whatever qualifies as a long term relationship.

Here are some points worth taking note of when going out on dates:

Get real and stay honest.  What women are looking for these days are men who can be honest with them about almost anything.  If for instance you did not have too great a time on the date and you are not likely to call her again, do not make the mistake of letting her believe that you will.  This is just considered a very distasteful behavior.

Chivalry is not dead.  While men are no longer expected to go through all courtship rituals in order to land a woman, it is still considered a good thing when you open a door for your date or offer to pick up the check for the meal.  Showing a woman that you can take care of her would earn you at least a hundred positive points and might very well earn you a second date as well.

Never talk about age or money.  When men are out with older or less successful women, it is a very bad mistake to ask about how old she is or how much money she makes.  It is just a can of worms waiting to mess up the date so better leave it alone.  However, do not be afraid to tell her about how successful you are because this fact is very important to women especially those who are looking to settle down soon. 

Ease up on the liquor.  It is never a good idea to get drunk while you are on a date, let alone a first date.  Three glasses of wine is the maximum for dinner dates and if you are taking a lady out to lunch, try to limit your consumption to just one.  If you are nervous and need not to be, try other means that do not involve lowering all of your inhibitions.

When it comes to dating, you need to have all your bases covered to ensure maximum fun, and perhaps even the prospect of a long term relationship.  

Dating Tips for Women

When it comes to dating, women are viewed to be those who fuss about their hair, makeup, shoes, and scent before going out to make themselves presentable and appealing.  If you are new to the world of dating, there are some things you have to be aware of so you do not make a fool out of yourself and actually enjoy the entire social ritual.

Useful Tips

Do not worry too much about how you look and focus more on how you feel.  It is a natural impulse for women as well as men to try and impress their dates which they take to mean spending hours in front of a mirror to land the perfect look.  Instead of being too obsessed with what color of lipstick you should dab on, it is better to just go for a natural look and let the other person see you just the way you are.

Paying your share of the check is nothing to be embarrassed about.  These are hard times and even if social convention dictates that men should always pay for the meal tab, it is a very nice gesture for women to at least offer paying for her share.  Doing this would show your date that you are classier than he had imagined and that you can take care of yourself.

Talk about yourself but not too much.  It is perfectly fine if you are a successful woman and that you are proud of your accomplishments.  However, taking over the conversation and making it all about you would be a major turn off.  The last thing you want is for your date to think that you are selfish and self absorbed.

Avoid asking loaded questions.  Inquiries such as do you ever want to get married? Or how many kids do you want to have?  Are like mine fields and you can expect an explosion all over your pretty face.  Men in general do not like to be quizzed about their future.  If your date brings it up, it is the only time you should talk about it.  Forcing the issue is definitely not very attractive.

Just enjoy the moment.  A lot of women put too much pressure on dates which is unfortunate because it is supposed to be the time when they can just relax and be themselves.  If you find yourself over thinking the ramifications of going out with somebody, just stop.  After all, it is only a date.  If it goes well, then that would be great.  If it doesn’t, you move on to someone better next time. 

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Pros and Cons of Online Dating

A lot of people are too busy with their professional lives that they hardly ever have the time to go out and experience the world outside the four corners of the office.  What a lot of men and women are looking for romance and quite a number of them have found exactly that through online dating.
Online dating has become quite the solution for people who are raring to meet other people but are just unable to go out and make time for such an activity.  If you are contemplating trying this  dating style for size, you should know all the pros and cons.

Pros
•    You only need a few minutes every day in order to connect with a lot of prospective dates.
•    There is always the option of making yourself sound a little bit more impressive than you actually are in order to attract people.  Glossing over or embellishing for effect is the language used in online dating.
•    You can choose who you want to meet or establish contact with.
•    It is very easy to select from a certain circle of people who you know have the same interests as you.
•    You can date people without having to actually leave the house.

Cons

•    95% of people you will meet online are likely to lie about themselves such as their age, jobs, and even their sexual orientation.
•    There are people online who prey on the weak or naive.  You run the risk of getting scammed or tricked into sending money or divulging personal information which can be used against you in the future.
•    Most of the connections you will make are likely to end because people who date online are always looking for something or someone better to come along. Settling is not exactly practiced by internet daters.
•    Some online dating sites are misleading especially when it comes to the services they offer.  You can expect to be ripped off at least once or twice especially by those dating sites that require payment from members.

Tips

If you really want to pursue online dating, you need to lower your expectations and just enjoy the ride.  In all, there is a very good chance that you will actually find the love of your life through one of the dating sites.  Just remember not to be too trusting so that you will not end up a victim of any ruse or scam.

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